Monday, May 25, 2015
From reality T.V. to reality
Recently the shocking news broke that one of the Dugar's molested some children when he was a young teenager. Other than that there really isn't much more information to think over. It was terrible, sinful and in this country anyway, criminal. I think everyone involved knows this, including Josh.
Normally I would just ignore this kind of stuff. I never took much interest in the Dugars. I have six children of my own and I just couldn't see the point of ending my week by watching someone else go through the exact same struggles I go through every day (When I was an RN I refused to watch E.R. as well).
Part of me just wants to tell everyone to shut up and mind their own business. In doing that I take the very real chance of being accused of approving of the act. I'm not. But really, who's business is this anyway? How does this concern %99.999 percent of Americans? It doesn't really. It is just gossip and nothing more. But that is difficult for most to see because of the Dugars' standing as a reality T.V. superstar family. People have lived their lives vicariously through this family for years and now with this new revelation they feel betrayed. So it is only natural, after watching this family grow up in their very homes over T.V., that they continue to live the fantasy that they are somehow entitled to an answer. How could one of our own do this?!
The fact is it wasn't one of our own. We really know virtually nothing about this family as this current situation proves. Nothing of importance anyway. We know nothing and are entitled to nothing. So shut up already. What could you possibly add to the conversation anyway? A gasp? A cluck of the tongue? A shake of the head and a mumbled, "How could he?".
Of course, there are others who could care less about the Dugars and their T.V. show. The news is simply another tidbit in a long line of smut that comes across their twitter feeds and facebook posts and they can't help but repost, retweet, regurge (whatever we call it) because it is a juicy, tasty, lovely morsel of gossip and we just can't help ourselves.
Others, Christians, brothers and sisters, will forward the "news" with the weak excuse of informing others so that they can "pray" for the Dugars. Really?! It saddens me to think there are Christians that are so immature. Gossip is gossip. If you dress a pig in your Sunday best, it is still a pig. This is probably the worse gossip there is because it takes what is clearly sinful and wraps it in a the guise of something as holy and beautiful as prayer. We've all done it and we all know it is wrong. So stop it.
This story simply proves what the Bible has said from the beginning. That sin is a terrible taskmaster. It eagerly crouches at the door and we must conquer it or become its prey, Something our distant cousin, Cain, discovered. The story of Cain isn't merely about him making the wrong choice. He represents the pattern the entire human race would take until the final judgement. The third chapter of Romans isn't just about bad people. It speaks of all people, all of which are bad. But in true Adamic form we try to point to others who are badder than ourselves (at least by our estimation) in order to get God's eyes off of us.
Jesus told a parable of a Pharisee and a tax collector (tax collectors were the icky, sinful, bad people of society back then). I'll quote this parable in full because I think it is important we all get the point:
“Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. The Pharisee, standing by himself, prayed thus: ‘God, I thank you that I am not like other men, extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even like this tax collector. I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ But the tax collector, standing far off, would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me, a sinner!’ I tell you, this man went down to his house justified, rather than the other. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted.”
(Luke 18:10-14 ESV)
I'm not saying that the situation with Josh Dugar should be ignored. What I am saying is that he is part of a family who is a part of a church which is a part of a wider community complete with law enforcement and they are all more than qualified to deal with the problem. We need to be concerned about our own camp or, as Aslan put it to the children in Narnia, our own story. If someone forwards you stories like this and you truly feel compelled to do something, pray for them. Then delete the post and start beating your own chest.